Our Archive

Blog Archives

Dropinceo > Blog > 2023 > October

Why change is scary (and how to beat your fear)

Would you trust me if I promised you that 90% of change is good?

A month or so ago, I wouldn’t trust myself with such a statement! But with a few gray hairs and some wise people in my network, I now trust myself to embrace it vs. fear it.

I’m now going through change with respect to my business; being faced with some long term engagements that may impact my freedom & creativity. Another change pending could be placing me out of an opportunity because I did my job well. And finally, I may be pausing some of my projects in a favor of more personal time off. I’m scared of these changes, because of the uncertainty that comes with change. Even more scary is that I have to provide both you and myself a framework to navigate changes with the mindset it is good and to trust the process!

Most of you may receive Change Management training from your company because “change” is being imparted on you. If you are an avid reader, there are many frameworks on change. A favorite one of mine is about teams that take you through the phases of “Forming”, “Storming”, “Norming” and “Performing”. This and many others are all good in theory, but for everyone change is personal and often lacks the human and emotional element and where most will fear it.  It is because I find most resources are lacking in this area that I wanted to share a framework with you that I think can be even more valuable. 

To start, you must ask yourself a few important questions to understand your starting point: 

  • Do you fear change?
  • How often has change resulted in something bad for you?
  • How often has change resulted in something good for you?
  • Have you ever regretted not going with a change?
  • Do you fight change?
  • Why do you fear change? If you do, when did it start and is it still relevant?

Step 1: Shift your mindset to err on the side of excitement and what change can be for you. When was there a time when Change was good for you? Did it happen to you or did you create the change? (New Job, New Location). Think about the times when Change was positive for you and shift your mindset from being risk averse to the possibility 90+% change will result in something good. Easier said than done, but what if you ask yourself: What if this change, I will be successful!  Don’t fear failure, but fear regret of not embracing the change and coming out better on the other side.

 Step 2: What can you control? In every change, there is something you own whether your attitude, actions to prepare for the change, questions you can ask to help you navigate the challenge. The more information you have with a positive mindset, the better you can maneuver through the change.

 Step 3: What can you not control? It could be that there is a decision to downsize for which you cannot influence. Maybe your team focus is being changed to a new direction; that decision has already been made and you have to accept it, good or bad. Once you get through any disappointment, revert to step 2, What can you control? I never want you to feel you don’t have options, you do and that’s why I’m here for you to talk through things… reach out to me!

Step 4: Acknowledge your feelings about the change, never push them aside; it will be a source of negative energy if you don’t have an outlet to feel them, talk about them, be angry about them. Find your way to either manage the emotion or even celebrate it if it’s a good change. If we don’t deal with our emotions, it will simmer down below and prevent you from performing.

Step 5: Check in with yourself â€“ when you get through the change and are performing again, you need to pause and reflect that you made it through and what were the steps you took to manage through this. The next time change happens, you can reflect on your resiliency and how you got through as a source of strength for the next change.

Back to my story… I was a bit sad due to the uncertainty of some of my upcoming changes and I knew I had to honor how I felt. I took a few days off from work to just be with our dog Gabbi and watch Netflix. I rested and I let myself go with the flow and thought about what I was gaining by these changes. Giving myself the time I needed and the mindset that the changes were good has brought me back to a good place. I’m excited for my new possibilities to enjoy my life more and do purposeful work in service to you. 

What stories of change would you like to share? I’m here to listen and perhaps we can have a conversation.

Now is the time for you to collect your thoughts and take action. I want you to succeed and this framework can enable you to do it yourself. 

However, if you need more help, I’m here for you as the Drop In CEO, CEO whisperer or as a sounding board. 

To hear more about This topic please tune into my podcast that is releasing this Friday 10/27/23. 

Would you rather have a quick 1-2-1 to discuss your specific challenge? 

Could The Drop In CEO be your support system? Direct Message me on LI or contact me by schedule a short call and let’s have a conversation. Until then, I wish you much success. 

Read More

Are You Speaking Up at Work? Three Things Your Boss Needs to Hear from You

During my time under the corporate umbrella, my creativity was stifled. Although I had fresh ideas, I was often overlooked for recognition and merely appreciated as a dependable resource within the organization. This didn’t work for me, and I started envisioning ways to revamp the organization and make it an attractive place to join, essentially launching a marketing campaign for my department. 

As I attempted to implement a regional strategy, it was met with resistance and failed to contribute to my professional growth, prompting me to realize that something was amiss. Through introspection and a quest for meaningful work, I realized that to break free and pursue my purpose, I had to venture out on my own, as I no longer belonged in my current environment where my innovative ideas fell on deaf ears.

Today, I wanted to share with you how leveling the playing field will help you be seen, heard, respected, and top of mind when it comes to proposals, changes, promotions, or critical conversations, avoiding that feeling of being unappreciated in the workplace.

Be a Proactive Proposer

The first thing your boss needs to hear from you is proposals for what needs to be changed, improved, shared, leveraged, or used. By speaking up and sharing your ideas, you’ll be seen as an idea person with strategic thinking.

Be a Problem Solver

The second thing is being a problem solver. Instead of creating more problems, provide solutions to the problems you see. Take charge and consult on an approach rather than waiting for leadership to fix the problem. By doing so, you’ll be seen as a leader and an equal to your boss.

Be Open to Feedback

If you follow this approach in an environment that values thought leadership, you will start to see signs that your ideas are valued and desired. However, not all bosses may be receptive, and if met with negativity or adversity, it is an opportunity to gather data and consider alternative directions.

If you’re in a leadership position, share this article with colleagues or team members who struggle with speaking up. I firmly believe that by helping others, we elevate the collective. I’m available for further discussions and look forward to hearing from you.

If you are aspiring to the C-Suite, and tired of the hustle, are you ready to change how you work and implement these tips? 

If you are a business owner or C-Suite leader, are you ready to invest in your people and help them be successful? Their success is your success! 

Now is the time for you to collect your thoughts and take action. I want you to succeed and this framework can enable you to do it yourself. 

However, if you need more help, I’m here for you as the Drop In CEO, CEO whisperer or as a sounding board. 

To hear more about my upcoming book, please tune into my podcast that is releasing this Friday 10/20/23. 

Would you rather have a quick 1-2-1 to discuss your specific challenge? Could The Drop In CEO be your support system? Direct Message me on LI or contact me by schedule a short call and let’s have a conversation. Until then, I wish you much success. 

Read More

How to Advocate for yourself and project the value you bring to the workplace

When I was 35, I had my sights set on a promotion that I felt would change the trajectory of my career. Asking for a promotion or advocating for oneself is not just about the desired outcome, but also about confidently stating the value we bring and providing specific examples of how we have made a difference. It’s about being proactive, action-oriented, and not being afraid to ask for feedback or help when needed.

I was only successful because of my ability to advocate for myself, utilizing my support system and the resources available to me.

The next time you’re facing a challenge, here are a few tips to remember:

  • Reflect on your value and address any gaps in performance. Take proactive steps to solicit feedback and showcase your contributions to the organization. Self-advocacy is a sign of true leadership.
  • Be confident and assertive when discussing your goals and aspirations. Clearly communicate what you want from the conversation and set the tone for a productive discussion.
  • Don’t be afraid to seek help and guidance. Reach out to mentors, colleagues, or professionals who can provide valuable insights and support in your self-advocacy journey.

Remember, reflect on your value, clearly communicate your goals, and seek support when necessary. With these tips, you can effectively advocate for yourself and achieve the success you deserve.

If you are aspiring to the C-Suite, and tired of the hustle, are you ready to change how you work and implement these tips? 

If you are a business owner or C-Suite leader, are you ready to invest in your people and help them be successful? Their success is your success! 

Now is the time for you to collect your thoughts and take action. I want you to succeed and this framework can enable you to do it yourself. 

However, if you need more help, I’m here for you as the Drop In CEO, CEO whisperer or as a sounding board. 

To hear more about my upcoming book, please tune into my podcast that is releasing this Friday 10/13/23. 

Would you rather have a quick 1-2-1 to discuss your specific challenge? Could The Drop In CEO be your support system? Direct Message me on LI or contact me by schedule a short call and let’s have a conversation. Until then, I wish you much success. 

Read More

How to Proactively Receive Feedback

I’ve been fortunate to receive some wonderful feedback from my clients. It’s been a privilege to help them through crises, act as a listening partner and collaborator, and contribute to their organization’s growth. I’ve seen firsthand how external resources can be a lifeline when facing challenges. I’m fortunate to have a vast network that I can connect you with, so don’t hesitate to reach out if you need support.

One topic I feel strongly about is the importance of feedback in the workplace. Unfortunately, not all leaders provide feedback, and waiting for performance reviews can be detrimental. I encourage you to take control of managing your leaders by proactively asking for feedback.

I’ve developed a framework for soliciting feedback, which includes asking what to continue, what to start, and what to change. It’s crucial to qualify the value you’ve brought to the organization and have face-to-face conversations to receive feedback.

When asking these questions, here are a few things to remember:

  • Gratitude is a powerful tool. It’s important to acknowledge positive feedback and use the foolproof 1-to-1 formula to position your value and ensure your contributions are recognized and valued.
  • When receiving recognition, pause and slow down. Show gratitude and acknowledge the effort others put into sharing their feedback and the value they see in your work.
  • Seek to understand constructive feedback. Constructive feedback may not feel good initially, but it provides valuable data and insight that can help us show progress and meet objectives. 

I urge you to take this framework and apply it to your own situations. If you’re a leader with team members who struggle with managing their careers and asking for feedback, share this podcast episode. For leaders who don’t have the time to teach these skills, I offer my assistance as the “drop-in CEO” to facilitate conversations or build capabilities within organizations.

If you are aspiring to the C-Suite, and tired of the hustle, are you ready to change how you work and implement these tips? 

If you are a business owner or C-Suite leader, are you ready to invest in your people and help them be successful? Their success is your success! 

Now is the time for you to collect your thoughts and take action. I want you to succeed and this framework can enable you to do it yourself. 

However, if you need more help, I’m here for you as the Drop In CEO, CEO whisperer or as a sounding board. 

To hear more about my upcoming book, please tune into my podcast that released this Friday 10/6/23. 

Would you rather have a quick 1-2-1 to discuss your specific challenge? Could The Drop In CEO be your support system? Direct Message me on LI or contact me by schedule a short call and let’s have a conversation. Until then, I wish you much success.

Read More

How Can Breaking Down Tasks Help You Finish the Year Strong?

As we approach the final 90 days of the year, I can’t help but feel a sense of excitement. Yes, I’m behind on my website update, writing plan, and five-year strategy, but I believe in the importance of giving oneself grace and finishing the year strong. I encourage you all to approach the end of the year with anticipation rather than stress. It’s an opportunity to accomplish goals and make a lasting impact.

I’ve faced my fair share of challenges with my website update, writing plan, and five-year plan. However, I’ve learned that discipline and prioritization are key to overcoming these hurdles. I’ve found success in creating focus time on my calendar and breaking tasks down into manageable chunks. I’m also thrilled about my upcoming book, “Secrets of the C-Suite,” and I’m confident that I’ll complete it within the next year.

If you’re overwhelmed by the thought of breaking tasks down, here are a few helpful tips:

  • Schedule your tasks into the calendar, no matter how small. Being able to check them off a list will help you see your progress and keep you focused on what comes next.
  • Celebrate each achievement, and learn to embrace small rewards. Something as simple as your favorite cup of coffee after completing some paperwork you’ve been putting off can go a long way when trying to motivate yourself to move forward.
  • Consistency really is the key to success. Any overwhelming task only gets less overwhelming when we keep at it. Start at the result and figure out your steps by working your way back toward the beginning.

If you are aspiring to the C-Suite, and tired of the hustle, are you ready to change how you work and implement these tips? 

If you are a business owner or C-Suite leader, are you ready to invest in your people and help them be successful? Their success is your success! 

Now is the time for you to collect your thoughts and take action. I want you to succeed and this framework can enable you to do it yourself. 

However, if you need more help, I’m here for you as the Drop In CEO, CEO whisperer or as a sounding board. 

To hear more about my upcoming book, please tune into my podcast that is releasing this Friday 9/29/23. 

Would you rather have a quick 1-2-1 to discuss your specific challenge? Could The Drop In CEO be your support system? Direct Message me on LI or contact me by schedule a short call and let’s have a conversation. Until then, I wish you much success. 

Read More

How Can You Proactively Ask for Feedback in the Workplace?

I’ve been fortunate to receive some wonderful feedback from my clients. It’s been a privilege to help them through crises, act as a listening partner and collaborator, and contribute to their organization’s growth. I’ve seen firsthand how external resources can be a lifeline when facing challenges. I’m fortunate to have a vast network that I can connect you with, so don’t hesitate to reach out if you need support.

One topic I feel strongly about is the importance of feedback in the workplace. Unfortunately, not all leaders provide feedback, and waiting for performance reviews can be detrimental. I encourage you to take control of managing your leaders by proactively asking for feedback.

I’ve developed a framework for soliciting feedback, which includes asking what to continue, what to start, and what to change. It’s crucial to qualify the value you’ve brought to the organization and have face-to-face conversations to receive feedback.

When asking these questions, here are a few things to remember:

  • Gratitude is a powerful tool. It’s important to acknowledge positive feedback and use the foolproof 1-to-1 formula to position your value and ensure your contributions are recognized and valued.
  • When receiving recognition, pause and slow down. Show gratitude and acknowledge the effort others put into sharing their feedback and the value they see in your work.
  • Seek to understand constructive feedback. Constructive feedback may not feel good initially, but it provides valuable data and insight that can help us show progress and meet objectives. 

I urge you to take this framework and apply it to your own situations. If you’re a leader with team members who struggle with managing their careers and asking for feedback, share this podcast episode. For leaders who don’t have the time to teach these skills, I offer my assistance as the “drop-in CEO” to facilitate conversations or build capabilities within organizations.

If you are aspiring to the C-Suite, and tired of the hustle, are you ready to change how you work and implement these tips? 

If you are a business owner or C-Suite leader, are you ready to invest in your people and help them be successful? Their success is your success! 

Now is the time for you to collect your thoughts and take action. I want you to succeed and this framework can enable you to do it yourself. 

However, if you need more help, I’m here for you as the Drop In CEO, CEO whisperer or as a sounding board. 

To hear more about my upcoming book, please tune into my podcast that is releasing this Friday 10/6/23. 

Would you rather have a quick 1-2-1 to discuss your specific challenge? Could The Drop In CEO be your support system? Direct Message me on LI or contact me by schedule a short call and let’s have a conversation. Until then, I wish you much success.

Read More